PSYCHO-HYPOCRITICAL LOVE
An existing but neglected kind of love.
War!
With the absence of BMPT Terminator, the Punisher and force protection Ocelot. Not third world war with all the physical damage, economic deterioration and global crisis, neither is it war between some natives in your state, but rather war in the mind.
There are no victories, trophies or medals to be won, only good choices. Choices soon to be faced by contemplation. There might also not be a star to be added to your shoulders after you read this article, but surely there should be a goad to your next best decision.
It is okay to say I fought hard — a battle in my mind to detach the word “Psycho” from the title “Hypocritical Love”. But, with stories untold, truth unrevealed, secrets locked up in the heart of men, it is only fair I find a light to torch it all in this episode and connect with victims, defeated soldiers who gave up the battle from their mind and hopefully young ones still at the verge of making good choices.
Ever wondered why people say nice things to you and have this welcome attitude towards you but share different opinions about you to others? Or when they post your images online and dedicate an entire ‘project-like’ chapter two and three series of you to the world but you actually never have a flowing relationship with them? Or how they could be quick to disdain your image when you have a little misunderstanding with them? The whole smiley face when you are both compulsorily in a room with other people but deep down every physical touch and discussion with you disgusts their guts? Or how you do all of the above and even more with others too?
They exist in the following category and more unlisted:
- They criticise others who look better and actually do better than them.
- They only honour and respect those in power or high positions.
- They only help when it is beneficial/ profitable to them.
- They never stop gossiping.
- They try so hard to get attention from everyone.
- They brag a lot about things they don’t have yet.
- They are the original use and dump personnels.
- They have double personalities. The all kind and humble meek fellas outside but on the inside and up close with them, they are all different.
Genuine Love is underrated and very scare in times like this. Apart from God’s love and mother’s love, you could find non to compare with the hypocrites we have now a days. Maybe it’s their upbringing, may be they choose this path, or may be they have always been heartbroken in life generally. Just may be! But, having to deal with this potential mental draining ailment is where the problem lies. Many went down fast enough into the tunnels of depression to find solace from this emerging lifestyle.
A hypocrite is one who sets good examples only when he has an audience.
~ Anonymous
Of course, we all have that one friend who displays such manner as this Hypocritical way of love. You don’t believe? Read again the above paragraph and you will be shocked as to who your mind flashes to of all your friends.
LOVE & ATTENTION
Not to be begged for! Can’t be purchased!
Just like everyone else, you deserve Genuine Love and Attention (non negotiable) but what have you been giving? and what will you give more?
The point of successful social networking is broadly connected to an exchange of mutual benefits. As in the case of married couples and love birds, one has to give to receive that affection, love and respect in return. Whenever you begin to feel like you need to do something special to remind people of your existence and gain back their attention, means you are either not giving attention and Love out or you simply don’t add value to that friendship. We could be quick to put the blame on “fake friends” etc but the amount of energy you give determines most times the amount of love and attention you deserve. So go all out and give to your friends your best love and attention once in a while. Test run that energy for a couple of months, if it doesn’t come back to you in the same quality or at least near to that quality of time and energy you give, please consider the CLOSE CIRCLE METHOD.
CLOSE CIRCLE METHOD
Sticking to whosoever gives you genuine happiness!
The break up event wasn’t the damage, we having a misunderstanding wasn’t also the problem, that we don’t get to understand ourselves at work, in school, churches isn’t the problem also but rather our choice of words was the kill switch! Don’t be shocked to know that SILENCE is also a choice of word.
Haven known ourselves for a while and share happy moments, it breaks the mind to know your one time close pal could say some really harmful words back at you. SILENCE could also lead your mind to thinking of the complete opposite of what the person might intend to say.
That’s why it’s better to run an energy test on your friends for few month (giving out a lot of time, energy, love and affection) and selectively choose those who respond to you. If not equal amount of energy like you give, at least an effort to show they value you as much as you value them.
The CLOSED CIRCLE METHOD eases your mind of stress, hypocritical love, emotional break down, bad energy, negative vibes and the likes. Cause when you are surrounded by people who have passed that energy test and are in your close circle list, it is easy to expect them to help your mind grow positivity when you down and maintain that level of happiness within you. Unlike having thousands of people who don’t have interest in your mental well-being whatsoever when you down and need some good vibes.
Imagine your followers on the gram or Tweeter actually care about your mental well-being other than your outfits and status updates, and the same goes for everyone. We should have zero rate of suicide and depression.
SELF TEST
Really, if after you have cleared your list of hypocrites and negativity in human forms, it is expected that you receive that genuine love and attention from your close circle list.
So what happens when you still feel you are surrounded by hypocrites? 😬
Then you need to test yourself in response to how you see society and people at large.
For example 😒
- Men are scum
- Men are all the same — wolves
- Men are proud
- Men don’t have respect
- Men are cheats and bullies
- Men are natural liars
- Men will only steal your joy (be independent lady!)
- Men just wants your body and nothing else
- I prefer to be single cause men and infidel are twin.
- Men think of themselves alone
- There is no perfect gentleman anywhere on the surface of the earth. Only in Heaven.
Want to read about the man’s obscure thoughts also?
- Women are selfish
- Women can never be understood
- Women are too needy
- Women are so fragile and weak
- Women only wants your money
- Women just want to enjoy life
- Women can’t be trusted
- Women are scum, scim, scam, scrum, scromb 😌
- She will leave you dry
- Women are worst than snakes (my bro jaaapa)
- Don’t fall in love with a woman, fall in love with your visions and business — it’s safer
How my feminist friends will come after me for this tho
Anyways, however you see an opposite sex affects your general view of the entire gender populace. Hence, the need to correct those views from an early age is crucial. Imagine a mother telling her six year old daughter to never trust any man and live life independent of them because she is a single mother? Or a father telling his son to guard his feelings against ladies affection because his wife gave him a tough time in their marriage — All sickening philosophies!
“People deal too much with the negative, why not try and see positive things to just touch those things and make them bloom”
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
You can think, process and accept positive thoughts as much as you can for the negative. So after this, try consider listing out those wrong philosophies you have probably heard from child hood and correct them. Remind yourself about how beautiful and positive life can be even amidst your current crisis.
Hypocrisy is a global crisis and we can fight against it by being honest with ourselves and our friends. Don’t lie to gain the trust of a friend else you will have to lie to retain that friendship once established. Try do some of what was said above and look out always for the positivity in people and Life generally.
Till my next write up, I want to thank you for the time you gave to read this. Your energy is mostly appreciated. Let’s do more.
I remain yours always, Solanke Olamilekan.