Words!
“Spoken in diverse languages, various accents, tones, pitches; accompanied with short precise expressions to intensify and pass a message, body movements as an expression of art, rolling of the eyes (fondly in African countries), sometimes voiceless with reiterated signs, some inaudible sound from the use of one’s nose which could mean many things based on the situation at hand (try saying 'hmn hnm’ several times and picture different scenarios).”
All these are what have been used to body shame victims.
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- You’re so fat.
- Why are your laps this slim.
- If the wind blows, it can take you away
- You have like 4 layers of stomach.
- Why so tall (Opa).
- “Otirin bi igi ope” (slim like palm tree)
- See as he be like “panla” (dry fish)
- See stretch marks everywhere.
- My dog is taller than you.
This and many more awful words from fellow creations of God. Just like racism, nepotism, ethnocentrism, religious extremists and every idea/ believe that ones way of life or perspective about life is superior or closely related to being better than that of others.
It’s understandable that we were born, raised and separated by privileges. The tall and short, fat and slim, poor and rich, privileged and less privileged. Well, its all part of Life itself.
TO THE VICTIMS
Dear all,
Your body is a perfect work of ART, crafted specially and uniquely by God’s hands. His gaze of perfection was fixed on yours as He thought of you. The skies, trees, oceans, mountains, and universe as a whole paused for the few moment He put in to creating you. Yes! Your existence got the attention of time and attracted the whole of Heaven to gaze with adornment and jealousy for the master piece you were being moulded into.
Not the sex your parent had, not their sins, Not anyone’s curse or prayers determined how you were going to look, not even the Angels with God in heaven could determine your beaut. You were a picture in the mind of the Maker of all things, expressed through Love and moulded with Perfection.
Were you born with less a flesh, arm, legs, organ, or did you loose any along the journey of life sequel to an accident or unavoidable ailment? What you regard as beautiful, doesn’t match up to half of how beautiful you still are.
The Mind Battle
Sense is the only thing not shared equally among humanity and we can’t break open people’s skull to infuse some for them especially the bullies. Nonetheless, having to keep a positive energy about your body is solely your responsibility.
What to do when being body shamed.
- Avoid argument.
- Acknowledge the presence of those insulting you and educate their ignorance.
- Stay Happy and Positive always.
- Don’t try being someone else cause you are unique. The earth is privileged to have only your kind existing.
- Live life freely in pure happiness.
- Never settle for tears (your bully’s joy is to see you sad and moody and in tears about what they are saying).
- Do more in being social (it will pain them more).
To The Bullies
You can’t create or mould one quarter/ half of what you mock. Repent!
